Guest blog- Grayson’s Big Adventures & our SEN journey so far
I recently photographed a wonderful little boy, Grayson.
Both him and his Mum, Charley, are amazing and since his autism diagnosis, have wanted to help others with SEN children too. So I asked her to write a guest post for me as she embarks on Grayson’s Big Adventures. Please take a moment to read Charley and Grayson’s story.
My name is Charley, I live in Addlestone with my 5 year old son Grayson, who has autism. I am divorced and in a new relationship with an amazing supportive man. I work for a hair salon in Esher called Hare and Bone and juggle mum life and work life (as most of us Mums do!).
Grayson was diagnosed with Autism in November 2018, a day I will never forget! I knew it was coming but to be told your child has a lifelong disability is so hard to take in. Since then we have been adjusting to life with the diagnosis and working hard to help him as best we can.
He started mainstream school in September 2019 and we learnt very quickly, this may not be right for him. We are now waiting for an EHCP for Grayson, which is a long process and fingers crossed that we get it soon. We can then look into the best option for him and for his future.
Last month I decided I wanted to try and use my experiences to help others, so I set up Grayson’s Big Adventures. A regular meet up network group for Mums/Dads/Carers. People like me who feel isolated, judged and vulnerable.. so far it has had an amazing response!
I wanted to organise meet ups tailored for SEN children, so they can enjoy attractions they may not normally be comfortable in. Parents can also relax a bit more with likeminded others. Plus it is great to hear everybody’s experiences and advice. To set up a support network that is much needed for so many families.
Running this group has been the therapy I needed. It definitely helped me come to terms with Grayson’s condition. It may not be how I pictured parenthood but it’s still amazing and I wouldn’t change him for the world. I just hope to make the world a kinder place for him and other children like him.
“Motherhood is about raising and celebrating the child you have, not the child you thought you would have. It’s about understanding that they are exactly the person they are supposed to be and that, if you’re lucky, they just might be the teacher who turns you into the person you are supposed to be.”